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Our Goal
To restore a stable and loving relationship between struggling parents and their children who have been taken into state custody and placed into foster care.
Children and their parents are provided a safe environment for emotional healing from abuse, neglect, and separation.
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In Georgia over 13,000 children were in protective care in 2018. Every month Whitfield and Murray Counties receive approximately 300+ phone calls alleging child abuse, molestation, truancy, or neglect.
Currently, there are 345 children who have been removed from their homes in Whitfield and Murray Counties. Most of these children have two active parents (whether a biological parent or grandparents) and four other relatives who actively participate in their lives'so the total number of people affected by the removal of these children is 2,415!
During the past five years, over 1,500 children in Whitfield and Murray Counties have been taken into foster care. The vast majority of these (over 75%) are never reunited with their parents.
Without question, there is a major crisis when the children and families are being divided, unhelped, and unhealed. 'Research has shown that the rate of post-traumatic stress disorder is higher among foster care alumni than it is for war veterans,' says Dr. John Seita, Professor of Social Work at Michigan State University.
Currently, upwards of 250 people benefit from Compassion House's services every month (including children and their extended families). Sadly, siblings put in other homes and relatives (grandparents, aunts, and uncles) want their own visitation opportunities, but a lack of funding prevents this from happening.
Visitation's Current Crisis
Given the research that proves the importance of visitation, it is tragic that federal and state grants for this service have been cut across the country. Parents and children now have fewer and shorter visits than ever before.
Can you imagine how you would feel if you could only see your child 3 hours a month? Now, try to imagine how devastated your child would feel from such limited contact. . . .
Compassion House's goal is that children have a visit with their parents as often as possible. Juvenile Court Enhanced Family Time suggests 3 or more times a week for children zero to 5 years old. We would love to be able to provide that service but finance and capacity prevent this very often.
The average age of a child taken into foster care is ten years old. When you see that eager, worried little child running into the arms of their parents, you catch a glimpse of the importance of maintaining a bond to ease the devastating pain of separation.
The Daily Citizen interviewed a mother named Jennifer, who stated:
'If I hadn't had my weekly visits with Rylie, there's no way I would have finished my case plan. I learned that drugs are bad, but it's hard to quit unless you have a good reason. Rylie is the best reason of all. I'm always wondering, 'What if I ever did it again?' But then I look at her.'
Jennifer and Rylie's success story was reported one month after the funding that provided for weekly visitation was cut.
Why Visitation is Crucial
'Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life.' (Proverbs 13:12)
At Compassion House families share quality time together doing numerous activities, using the games, books, and toys we provide. Our four, cheerful, homey rooms are decorated for maximum comfort. Parents and their children celebrate birthdays and holidays together, and we are open every year on Christmas day. Numerous social service studies prove that frequent, supervised visitation is key in the reunification process. In plain English that means parents are more likely to succeed with their case plans and prove themselves ready for the responsibilities of parenting again when regular visits occur (Loar, 1998; Hess & Proch, 1993).
Benefits of Frequent Visitation include:
' Less emotional and developmental damage. Having this secure attachment in place promotes a greater capacity for self-regulation, effective social interactions, self-reliance, and adaptive coping skills later in life.
' Fewer health risks. Research on toddlers and infants have discovered that not having this secure attachment can cause long-term harm and damage to brain circuits because of an excess of cortisol (a stress hormone). (Though this study did not include the stress older children and their parents face, it is obvious that separation, except in the cases of pathological abuse, causes overwhelming feelings of despair.)
' The family relationship is strengthened.
' Hope is kept alive for the parent(s) and motivates them to change. Parents who are granted frequent visitation are 70% more likely to succeed with their case plans.
' Visits provide a sense of stability. On average, children have 3 different foster care placements. Frequent moves in and out of the houses of well-meaning strangers can be profoundly unsettling for children, and it is not uncommon to hear of children who have been in 20-30 different homes. Many are also separated from their siblings.
Why Visitation Alone Is Not Enough To Save Families from Permanent Separation
Children who are placed in foster care are confused and deeply miss their parents, grandparents, and siblings. Separated from everything they have known, most of these children become numb or depressed, feeling they have no one to talk with or to trust.
Likewise, their parents, suffering from fear, shock, and anger from having their children removed from their lives, usually slide into a state of despair and confusion. Most are overwhelmed and unable to picture a way out of their devastating circumstances.
A leading child care advocate in Atlanta recently said, 'We take people who are typically suffering from a poverty mentality, whose priorities aren't right in the first place, who are likely dealing with addictions of one kind or another, and then pile a heap of responsibilities on them and offer no support. No wonder so few succeed.'
We very much celebrate the adoptions and forever homes of those children who could not reunite with their biological families. However, the goal is and has always been to work toward reunification if at all possible. The best thing we can do for a child is to help their parents be parents for them if at all possible. Knowing that a just society provides help for those willing to receive it, Compassion House was founded on the premise of 'being life-giving to those who are not being helped.' Without such support, these children and parents will perpetuate generational patterns of familial devastation.
'I know the plans I have for you, plans for your welfare and for your good'to give you a future and a hope.' (Jeremiah 29:11)
Since Compassion House is the only facility available in Whitfield and Murray Counties where children can have a supervised visit with their parents once they have been placed in state custody, we see this as a wonderful opportunity to minister to families in ways that are truly life-changing.
The good news is that during this season of crisis, parents have the most incentive to make changes in their lives. That's why we're dedicated to matching their desire to improve themselves with family-saving resources.
Study after study has proven that the sooner comprehensive intervention services are provided, the better the chances are for families to be reunited. With this in mind, we are encouraged by the success of our cutting-edge programs and classes that help our families heal and then learn important skills.
Grief and Loss Recovery Workshops
Nurturing Parenting Classes
Healthy Relationship Classes
Anger Management Classes
Grief and Loss Recovery Workshops
Restoration from Trauma and Loss Recovery Workshops
Our Grief and Loss Recovery program offers participants access to crucial life skills that most haven't received'practical techniques that help reconcile feelings of loss and change. There are more than 40 events that can create the range of human emotions called grief (including divorce, separation, death, job loss, foster care, loss of hope and health, etc). Whether the loss was recent or long ago, it may still be limiting one's ability to fully embrace life. Grief and Loss Recovery techniques assist in the ultimate journey back to one's heart and to see life in a positive way.
Nurturing Parenting Classes
These comprehensive 15-week classes are not just informational; our parents repeatedly declare these sessions are life changing. Topics Covered: Parenting Values, Role of Nurturing Parents, Character Development, Self-Worth, Ages and Stages of Development, Understanding Feelings, Developing Family Rules, Problem Solving Skills, Stress Management Tools, Understanding and Expressing Anger, and more. In addition to receiving practical skills and information, participants are given hands-on opportunities to experience the program concepts, along with numerous illustrations to help them apply these proven parenting techniques. We also work through Triple P Parenting for school age children.
Healthy Relationship Classes
Healthy Relationship Classes
At Compassion House, we are dedicated to healing and restoring families. Harmony at home not only creates a loving atmosphere for a couple, but also makes for happier, more hopeful children. Obviously, parents who maintain a strong realtionship bond are going to be a better model for their children. We teach healthy relationship enhancement skills for couples (married or otherwise). These proven techniques help couples build skills such as showing understanding, problem solving, healthy communication and much more. We help couples and individuals identify unhealthy boundaries, unhealthy interactions, and so much more By the end of the course, couples understand how to establish and maintain honesty, compassion, empathy, and trust in their relationship and communicate appropriately.
Anger Management Classes
Anger Management Classes
We teach coping skills through anger management classes. Most individuals have been through adverse experiences in their lifetime and they have never learned how to process the emotion of anger or how we respond to anger. Everyone can benefit from learning skills to respond to anger. Our 8 week anger management course will cognitive behavioral skills that allow us not to avoid anger, but manage our responses to it. These groups have been very effective for many.
'I am returning' with compassion; My house shall be built in it,' says the Lord of hosts.'
(Zechariah 1:16)