In a practical way, the Mentor is the face and voice of hope when parents in crisis are overwhelmed by the devastating loss of their children. Parents understand that if they do not 'clean up' their lives or their living situations, they may lose their children permanently, in many cases never seeing them again. Can you imagine the fear and heartbreak such parents and children experience?

 
Frightened, depressed, and overwhelmed, most of these parents are desperate for help. Finding hope through a mature Christian mentor, as we have seen, can make all the difference! Mentors are like life-coaches; they know that life has 'bumps,' but that there is a God who can heal broken hearts and restore lives.

Having a mentor greatly improves a mentee's success rate; however, God has shown us this is also an eternal question. Most of our parents are not currently attending a church. Most are filled with shame, bitterness, unforgiveness, and anger because of what has happened in their own past and because of what, through their own poor choices, has occurred to their children. Their souls are not ready for heaven.' In order to succeed, these parents (through the help of God and others) need to experience deep healing and transformation. But even those who aren't able to reunify with their children should be given an opportunity to see God through the hearts of those who love Him, so that when they are ready, they can cry out to the only one who can save them.